Fear – yes, I feel it! I’m writing this because during the last couple days I was on a security detail and got into an altercation with a guy who was a bodybuilder / crossfit look’n fella. I won the fight and was asked this by a team mate:
“Dude, in 5 years I’ve never seen you lose a fight at work. Must be that 6th Degree BB! How’s it feel not to have to fear anything?”
Now – he said this with a little bit of brotherly humor BUT he was serious as well. Bottom line – I’ve been scared after every fight he mentioned.
Old acronym: F.E.A.R. – False Evidence Appearing Real (New acronym down below)
That is a line of crap when you’re talking about professional security. Now, I’ll be the first to admit… there are a few very tough guys out there that really don’t feel fear. Or at least it’s takes an EXTREME amount of nastiness to get them there. Unfortunately, I’m not one of them. Why? Let me explain.
(1) I’ve responded to a number of retaliation attacks where bouncers, protective agents or law enforcement were severely beaten and in a couple cases killed by the very person they had recently either kicked out of a club and/or defeated in a fight. I’ve seen very close friends hurt very badly and not be able to return to this career field due to sustained injuries.
(2) I’ve been hired to protect the families of clients who’ve had psychos threaten their spouse and kids INSTEAD of going after them!
(3) I’ve fought guys – and beaten them – simply because they underestimated my size, strength & will. Now – if we had to fight again, in some cases I think they’d win because in most cases they were bigger & nastier than I… and this time, they won’t underestimate me.
(4) The sucker punch. It’s VERY effective and used all the time by street thugs. I know I can have my head knocked off any day of the week by a determined, proactive thinking fighter who feels I’ve treated him (or a friend of his) unfairly.
(5) I’ve left work a couple times only to be followed by a car full of assholes defending a guy that I had an altercation with earlier.
So, why do I feel fear a lot of times after a fight? After a fight that I won? Because I’m street smart! I know that if I kick someones ass… they will want revenge. Depending on their moral make-up… they may bring knives, pistols, friends, etc. They may be willing to follow me home and put my family at risk as well.
In addition – people that assault bouncers, bodyguards, etc. are often times very used to street fighting. Losing a fight to them is just part of their lifestyle. If they lose the fist fight… they’ll stab you later. If they can’t get close enough to stab you… they’ll try to shoot you. All of their retaliation assaults will occur when you least expect it.
Since fear is an intelligent “warning signal” created by the human body, don’t try to eliminate it… MANAGE it!
New acronym: F.E.A.R. – Failure Expected Action Required (learned from Tony Blauer)
If you work in this industry, hopefully you’ve read reasons 1 – 5 above and now understand why de-escalation is so important. Just because you feel a guy deserves to get chewed out, embarrassed or beat up doesn’t mean it’s the smart thing to do. First of all are reasons 1 – 5 above and reason 6 is that you could go to jail yourself!
So, train your body… stay fit… and train your mind. If you have to fight, WIN. But never be over confident and think things are over just because you won this particular round. Bad guys that come back for round 2 always have friends & weapons and the fight won’t be fair. (Fair… funny in this context, right?)
Agree? Disagree? Please share your thoughts & experiences in the comments below!
Stay safe everyone!